Archive for January, 2009

Knowledge Is Power Accurate

Saturday, January 17th, 2009

Fact #7: Knowledge Is Power Accurate and realistic knowledge about men’s bodies and male sexuality is crucial. Sexual health for men involves understanding physical, psychological,and relationship factors. Being realistic and thinking accurately about your body and your sexual function is a crucial component of sexual health. Th is is essential because the public presentation of sex has nearly no relationship to the truth. Th e media, marketing, and public discourse is about getting your attention more than teaching you the truth about sex in real people’s lives. Th is is a major problem and one of the most important motivations for our writing this book. You also need a good understanding of your emotional life. It is important to understand the diff erences between your sex drive (“feeling horny”) and positive and negative emotions like anxiety, loneliness, enjoyment, or pride in a job success.

All energy in the body is not sexual energy, although there is a tendency for men to interpret a variety of emotions as sexual and try to manage their emotions by sexualizing them. For example, most men have masturbated to relieve anxiety or stress. You also need to understand what healthy sexual behaviors are. Men care about sexual performance. Sexual function (performance) for men is fundamental, and to dismiss this important component of male sexuality is self-defeating. We’ll coach you how to put sexual function into perspective; otherwise, it becomes a huge barrier to sexual pleasure, sexual acceptance, and relationship intimacy.

Viagra Myth

Saturday, January 10th, 2009

Ejaculation affects about one in five men ages 18 to 59. Although the problem is often assumed to be psychological, biology also may play a role. In some cases, premature ejaculation is a secondary problem related to erectile dysfunction. Men who are anxious about obtaining or maintaining their erection during sexual intercourse may form a pattern of rushing to ejaculate. If you think premature ejaculation is affecting your sex life, there are some practical physical, mental, and medical treatments that can correct the condition.

Myth 16: Pleasurable contact must lead to sex. Fact: This belief can add to performance anxiety when, in fact, many men and women enjoy pleasurable touching that does not lead to intercourse. It may help men and women to realize that an erection or arousal does not have to equal sex.

Myth 17: I can’t sexually satisfy my partner. Fact: Most women enjoy intercourse, but their main source of sexual pleasure is the clitoris. You can still bring a woman to orgasm by providing direct clitoral stimulation with your hand, your tongue or a sex toy.

Myth 18: Erection problems are a common sign of prostate cancer. Fact: Difficulty in getting an erection is sometimes associated with many health problems, such as high blood pressure, diabetes and heart disease, but it is rarely associated with the development of prostate cancer, although it commonly occurs after prostate cancer treatment. Simple, safe and effective treatment is available for erection problems and affected men should consult their doctor for advice.

Myth 19: Guys in pornography get instant erections; I should, too. Fact: Movies aren’t always real. Fact is, some men in pornography have a great deal of trouble raising and maintaining erections because of the stress involved in having sex on camera. Today, most men in porn use Viagra – and some still have unreliable erections.

Myth 20: During sex, you only get one erection